Sorry to put this on you but I have an honest question about depression an suicide. Isn't it completely possible for it to be a alternative for someone. Can't there be someone out there who genuinely is tired and doesn't want to continue. I know there is beauty and wonderful things in this world. There are things to look forward to. There will be more pain but also more laughter. But what if I'm not interested?
well… well first off, i’d say, seek professional help immediately. because i am wildly unqualified to answer your question with anything but experience. and first off, my experience says, if you are in such a deep and dark place where you say things like this to total strangers on the internet, you need to be in contact with someone that can help you start to heal.
second, i’d say… you’re wrong. i’d say the things any of us don’t know, especially about tomorrow, could blanket every grain of sand on every beach of the world with bullshit. And to simply assume you are done tomorrow because you are done today is a mistake. a factual mistake, an error, a critical miscalculation.
i’d say, read Tad Friend’s piece JUMPERS in which he seeks and finds and talks to people that jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge — and lived. And they all say the same variations this: “I instantly realized that everything in my life that I’d thought was unfixable was totally fixable—except for having just jumped.”
And know that this piece has kept me in my seat on more than a couple dark nights.
And i’d say — i’d say i felt that way before too, and i was wrong.
And then i’d tell you something i don’t even think my wife knows. this happend years before we met — shit, more than a decade — and it’s not the first time i came close to suicide was on a thanksgiving night. i’d eaten well and then as the house shut down i went into the bathroom, drew a bath as hot as i could manage to stand, and climbed into the tub with a razor blade.
As i started to cut, as the corner touched my skin and that jolt of pain fired into my head, i stopped and thought — y’know, last chance. Are you SURE?
And i was tired. I sounded like you, that i knew there’d be ups again and downs but i was just so fucking TIRED i couldn’t stand the thought of having to get there. I felt this… this never-ending crush of days that were grey and tepid but for some reason i was supposed to greet each one with a smile. the constant pressure of having to keep my shit in all the time was just exhausting.
I wondered, then — well, is there anything you’re curious about. Anything you want to see play out. And i thought of a comic i was reading and i’d not figured out the end of the current storyline. And i realized I had curiosity. And that was the hook i’d hang my hat on. that by wanting to see how something played out I wasn’t really ready. That little sprout of a thing poking up through all that black earth kept me around a little longer.
I realized then that it had been so long since i’d laughed. I was numbed out and shut down and just… i missed laughing. maybe if i laughed a little i could get moving again. so i’d wait for my comic to conclude, try to find a few laughs, and then reevaluate.
So I’m in the bathtub and i got this real sharp-ass razor, right? And i look down and there’s all my bits floating in the water like they do and i thought okay, let’s get funny and i got to work.
I shaved off exactly half my pubic hair vertically. The end result was a ‘fro of pubes that looked like a Chia Pet that only half-worked. I started to laugh as I did it. And every time i’d piss, looking down made me laugh.
Because JESUS what a nightmare.
Shortly thereafter I got very heavily into Chuck Jones and Tex Avery. Way less chafing and way more funny.
jesus. i was still in high school at the time. dig if you will a picture of the chubby weirdo that was always giggling at his dick in the bathroom. that was me.
And then I guess I’d tell you about Dave, who did the same thing as me a few years later, only DIDN’T have my hilarious Chia Dick strategy in mind and got the razor in and up. And as he started to bleed out “Brown Eyed Girl” came on the radio and he realized he’d never get to hear that again so, in a bloody comedy of errors — I swear to god this is true — he got out of the tub, tried to get dressed the best he could, went downstairs calling for help only to find his family gone, went out to his car, and drove to doug’s house only to find doug not home and so, then, finally, he blacked out from blood loss sitting there in his car, playing a van morrison CD on repeat, until, by luck, Doug’s mom came home and found him.
Fucking Van Morrison, y’know?
A song, a comic, something dumb, something small. From that seed can come everything else, I swear to god.
I guess last I’d say… I’d say that, look — if you reached out to me for an answer, than I have to reach back out to you and insist you hear it. Because it means, what, you know me? My work? You read my stuff and thought, well, fuck, if anyone would know why I shouldn’t end my life, if anyone alive is QUALIFIED TO SAVE ME it’s the guy that had britney spears punch a bear? okay — okay, then, so as THAT GUY I’m saying: Get help. Now, today, tonight, whenever — get to a phone and find a doctor that can try to help you heal, that can try to recolorize your world again, that can help you start caring again. All you need is that one tiny thing, that speck, that little grain of sand. the World Series, AVENGERS 2, Tina Fey’s new show, the first issue of PRETTY DEADLY, some slice of the world you’ve never seen, some drink you love, who the fuck will love your dog like you do if you’re gone, what if jabrams KILLS it on the new STAR WARS, the hell are you doing for Halloween, you ever feed a dolphin with your bare hand? because i have and I am fucking telling you IT IS A THING TO EXPERIENCE and oh god WHAT FUCKING FONT WILL STARBUCKS USE ON THE CHRISTMAS DRINK SLEEVES THIS YEAR — i don’t care what or how dumb but i promise you somewhere in your life is that one fleck of dust that can help start you on the road back. That’s all it takes. One fucking mote, drifting through your head.
And because you asked me I am answering you because i know, motherfucker, i know, i know, i know the hole you are fucking in because I was there myself and if you look hard you can still see my writing on those walls and if you stare long enough i swear to god it’s pointing to up
Lately, I have been feeling very sad for the cosplay community. The atmosphere of the hobby has changed very rapidly over the past couple of years, due to a number of factors, and while some of the changes are exciting and positive, there’s also a lot of anger and negativity that is making a…
Once again, all new songs. Every year it gets harder and harder to decide what to use, because I have so much awesome stuff! Can you believe it wasn’t a matter of IF I had an Aquaman song, but WHICH track to use? I <3 my musical nerds!
Use it for your road trip, at home while you’re packing, working on costumes, or to annoy your roommates who just don’t get it! Sing along! Two more hours of fun!
Fandoms covered: Buffy, Firefly, Star Wars, Star Trek, Jim Henson, Pacific Rim, Transformers, comics (DC and Marvel), Harry Potter, TMNT, Planet of the Apes, Lost Girl, gaming, Dr Who, LOTR, cosplay, Disney, and of course, Guardians of the Galaxy.
If you’re curious about where to get a track, contact me and I’ll point you to where you can find/purchase them (though most should be readily available on Amazon or iTunes).
Blue Swede - Hooked On A Feeling
Fraggle Rock Intro
K-Face Rules - Talk Nerdy To Me
Frou Frou - Holding Out For A Hero
Buffy The Vampire Slayer - Rest in Peace
Ookla the Mok - Arthur Curry
Frank Gorshin - The Riddler Song
thechrishaley and Adam WarRock - Nerrd Lines
Stan Bush - The Touch
Parry Gripp - Video Game Girl
Jene Nicole Johnson - Do You Wanna Go To Starbucks?
Pentatonix with Lindsey Stirling - Radioactive
Weird Al Yankovic - Tacky
Meghan Trainor - All About That Bass
Johnny Hacknslash - Hail, Hydra!
Vanilla Ice - Ninja Rap
Adam WarRock - Star-Lord
Break Originals - Moves Like Jabba
Fozzie - Movin’ Right Along
Sheldon Allman - X Square Plus 2
Hillywood Show - Doctor Who Time Warp (DJ Spider’s edit)
Possible Oscar - Captain Mal (Aiming to Misbehave)
Simpsons - Dr. Zaius
Voltaire - Worf’s Revenge
Pink - Raise Your Glass
Lisa Easley with Leah McKendrick - Bat Romance
Not Literally - We R Slytherins
Colero, DiFelice & Pinkerton - Lost Girl (theme)
Warp Zone - One Ring
Screen Team - Avengers Assemble!
Ben Johnston - I’m Geeky and I Know It
South Park - Chewbacca Defense
Idina Menzel - Let It Go
Kirby Krackle - Cosplay Queen
Tenacious D - Land of the Lost Theme (live)
Blake Perlman - Drift
Lorde - Everybody Wants To Rule The World
Monty Python - Always Look On The Bright Side Of Life
On July 25th, my friends and I were walking down the street towards some place to have lunch during the San Diego Comic Con (SDCC) 2014. A man stops us, asking my cosplayer friend to do a quick interview for his documentary on cosplaying. Which is a common project for filmmakers who attend the…